I have now updated this guide for 2019! Read it here: Gift Guide: My top Sex Toy picks for Valentine’s Day 2019
I have tried, tested and enjoyed every single product in this blog post. This isn’t just a list of good deals or things I think might be good. These products are high quality and I think they would each make a fantastic gift for a lover. There are, however, so many other fantastic products to choose from. These 8 just happen to be products I have got my hands on and have fallen in love with. Before we start, here’s a bit of advice when buying sex toys for someone.
If your Valentine has no sex toys to your knowledge, please proceed with caution. It’s much better to have a frank and honest conversation about sex toys rather than blindsiding them with a gift they do not want. Worse than this, to receive a sex toy when you have expressed no interest in them may be perceived as sexual pressure. I’m sure the last thing you want is to make your loved one feel pressure into trying something they are not comfortable with.
If you know they like sex toys, first of all it’s a good idea to see if they have a wishlist. That’ll give you a good idea of the kind of product they will be looking for, and what they really want. If they don’t have a wishlist that you are aware of, it’s time to get your detective cap on. Have a look at the products they already own, and take note of what gets used regularly. Do they like insertable toys (dildos, g-spot vibrators, prostate massages, butt plugs) or external toys (massagers, bullets, strokers, wands)? Or both? For external vibes, do they like precise vibrations, bullet vibes, for example, or broad stimulation as in Magic Wands? For internal vibes, take note of the sizes, are they small or large? There’s no point getting someone a butt plug that is far too large for them to enjoy. For dildos, do they like relatic looking or not? Do they prefer vibrations or static? All of this information will really help you to make a purchase.
The safest way to buy (other than buying off a wishlist), is what I call the luxury upgrade. If you know they have a trusted vibe that they love to use over and over again, find out what the best one of those things is on the market and buy it for them. For example, if they have a cheap, rubber battery powered rabbit vibe, get them a high end USB rechargeable silicone one. It’s thoughtful because it shows you noticed what they like and tried to get them a really good version of it.
Onwards, to my recommendations!
1. Doxy Die Cast Wand Vibrator
This is top of my list for so many reasons. Wand’s make fantastic gifts because they are versatile. You can use them for massage (this one is fantastic for getting knots out of my back). You can use them for sex. You can get a variety of attachments to transform them into different kinds of toys. They really are a fantastic product. I recommend the Doxy Die Cast in particular because they are well made, the motors are excellent, the head is silicone, there are multiple vibration functions, they come with special purpose built storage boxes, and the casting is beautiful. Mine is red and glittery and I LOVE it. You can also get it in purple, black, gold, white and silver. Buy it here (UK), here (USA) or here (Aus).
2. Liberator Wedge
This is not a sex toy, per se, it’s sex furniture. My husband actually brought it as a gift for me. I was skeptical at first, it seemed to me like a lot of money spent for what effectively is a pillow. I was wrong though, I fucking love this wedge! Why? Well first of all, the royal blue, soft lining feels nice and is stylish to look at. Even better, you can zip it off and shove it in the washing machine once it’s covered in sex gunk. Next, its solid foam inside is both really comfortable and supportive. I’ve used it to get in to better positions so that sex feels better. I’ve enjoyed missionary for the first time, because the angle of my hips lead to it feeling really, really good. It’s also great for getting both parties comfortable for oral sex. Finally, in my recent quest to get pregnant, I’ve been relaxing on my liberator wedge after sex. It elevates my hips, keeping all that sperm inside my body, giving it a fighting chance at getting to an egg. The liberator wedge is a fantastic product for any sexual relationship. Buy it here (UK), or here (USA) or here (Aus).
3. We-Vibe Sync
I have to disclose here that I own and love a previous model of this we-vibe product. I’m recommending the latest versions though, because from what I’ve heard this product keeps on getting better and better. The we-vibe sync is designed to be worn during penis in vagina (or dildo in vagina) sex. One arm rests inside the vagina, stimulating the g-spot, the other against the clitoris. This was another product I was worried wouldn’t work for me, and I think there is some risk that it won’t fit your (or your partner’s) anatomy. However, I got on great with it, I love the rumbly vibrations, and that my partner’s penis firmly pushes the vibrations into my g-spot. I even enjoy using it for some hands free solo play. It’s got a remote control and an app to control it. Great if you’re in to your techy toys. Buy it here or here.
4. We-Vibe Ditto Butt Plug
Whilst we’re talking about we-vibe products, I have to mention my favourite butt plug: the we-vibe ditto! This petite silicone butt plug has amazing rumbly vibrations. You can control it using a remote control and app so you don’t have to fiddle trying to push buttons down there. It’s a beautiful shape and made of wonderfully smooth silicone and fully waterproof. It would make a fantastic upgrade for someone who is just getting in to butt plugs. It’s also beautifully presented, perfect for a gift. Buy it here or here.
5. Tracey Cox Glass Dildo Set
This product I think is one of the best deals on the market. You get not one, but two beautiful glass dildos, each with its own black velvet storage bag. There’s a thin, beaded and curved, clear one and a thicker bulbous pink one. I’ve had mine a long time and I never tire of using them. There’s something so simple and pleasurable about them. I love the clear one as an anal dildo and the pink one as a vaginaal dildo, but you can use them however you please. They can be heated up or cooled down using water for some lovely temperature play. Buy them here (UK) or here (USA) or here (Aus).
6. Womanizer 2 Go
I’m a big fan of my womanizer 2 go. Sure, it looks like a comically large lipstick, but I forgive it that because of the excellent stimulation it gives to my clit. It has quickly become the toy I always reach for during sex, and the toy I’ll grab if I’m struggling to orgasm during solo play. It’s easy to hold and use, it comes with two different sized silicone heads, it’s rechargeable and its packaging is divine. I loved the box the womanizer 2 go came in so much that I kept it for storage. It’d make a fantastic gift for a sex toy lover with a clitoris. Buy it here (UK) or here (USA) or here (Aus).
7. Lovehoney Desire Rabbit Vibrator
Out of all the Rabbit vibrators out there, this one is my favourite. It never fails to make me orgasm, sometimes in record time. Its rumbly vibrations just hit all the right notes with my body. It is fully waterproof and made of high quality purple silicone. It’s rechargeable and it comes with a purpose built storage case that I love. Rabbit vibes can be hit and miss, this one feels like it was built for my anatomy. It is beautifully presented and would make a great gift. Buy it here (UK), here (USA) and here (Aus).
8. Rocks-Off Ignition Bullet Vibrator
There are so many great bullet vibes out there, it’s overwhelming. This one remains my favourite to recommend. I think it is beautiful to look it. It’s rechargable, the battery lasts ages, the tip is perfectly tapered for precise pin point stimulation and it is plenty powerful enough for me. It’s also a good deal cheaper than several competitors. Buy it here (UK), here (USA) or here (Aus).
There you have it, just a few suggestions of my top tried and tested sex toys. Do you want more specific, tailored recommendations? If so, I’m happy to help. Simply fill the contact form in below and I’ll get back to you. Or pop it in the comments.