Here is a space where I write personal and opinion pieces on things that interest me. This could be on sex, sexuality, feminism, relationships, mental health or just general advice I wish someone had given me. The pieces won’t necessarily be on the sex toy or adult fiction world.

I hope you find what I say interesting or at least informative. I speak only from my own experiences, and of how I see the world through my queer white cis-female able bodied eyes. I think it is always important to be aware of the position of whatever it is you’re reading, and to know I don’t speak for anyone but me. Enjoy reading!

Sex & Sexual Health

How I learnt to orgasm every time during sex with a man

Squirting: the pressure to perform and my lack of sexual pleasure

5 Sex Toys You Should Never Put up Your Butt

6 Tips to Enjoy Sex while you’re on your Period!

Exactly What Happened at My First Cervical Screening

How Mushroom Pills fixed my HPV and Cervix Abnormalities

Six ways to Prevent Thrush

At Home STD testing: Chlamydia

PCOS & Conception

My (complicated) baby fever

Trying to Conceive with PCOS

Trying to Conceive with PCOS Take 2: Keeping Calm

Trying to Conceive with PCOS Take 3: Oh Shit, where did my sex drive go?

Trying to Conceive with PCOS Take 4: Treading Water and Emotional Turmoil

Trying to Conceive with PCOS Take 5: I’m finally pregnant!

You don’t need expensive gadgets to get pregnant! Cheap(er) alternatives and my frustration at companies profiting from people who are TTC.

Mental Health

I’m the problem: coming to terms with social anxiety & imposter syndrome

The Darkest Days: Love, Depression and Suicide Content warning: suicide, grief, depression

Fuck the Pain Away: A Post About Grief and Sex Content warning: Grief, explicit sex

Labelled Lazy: Motivation and Depression Content warning: depression, apathy

Seasons, Cycles, and Sadness: my predictable depression Content warning: suicide, depression, PMDD

Sexual Assault / Abuse

Scars and Stoicism: My Response to Sexual Assault Content warning: sexual assault, trauma

That time I had sex out of politeness Content warning: non consensual sex acts

Subtle Abuse Content warning: Abuse, domestic violence, sexual abuse.

How My Rape Affected My Sex Life Content warning: rape / sexual assault

Queer / Non-Monogamy

Polyamory and Marriage: what it means to me.

Some thoughts on Polyamory: the problem with white media & the changing culture of the Western world

Coming out… again… and again… and again

My Top 10 Queer Tunes

Body Positivity

Why I stopped shaving: hairy legs in a shaven world

Comfortably (un)sexy selfies: a journey towards loving every part of myself

How To Get a Beach Body!

Gift / Buying Guides

Gift Guide: My top sex toys for Valentine’s 2021

The Best Sexy Advent Calendars of 2020

Gift Guide: My top Sex Toy picks for Valentine’s Day 2019

Lovehoney Lingerie: My top picks for Valentine’s day!

Gift Guide: My top Sex Toy picks for Valentine’s Day 2018

My review of SNAPSHOT: ethical queer porn thriller

Eggs and Rabbits: Toys for a Sexy Easter!


Jezebella’s 2018 end of year round up!

Five Ways Sex Toy Companies Could Be Better in 2018

I’m not Sexy enough to be a Sex Blogger

Thoughts on first year of blogging

My top Sex Toys 2016 & End of Year Reflection