Here is a space where I write personal and opinion pieces on things that interest me. This could be on sex, sexuality, feminism, relationships, mental health or just general advice I wish someone had given me. The pieces won’t necessarily be on the sex toy or adult fiction world.
I hope you find what I say interesting or at least informative. I speak only from my own experiences, and of how I see the world through my queer white cis-female able bodied eyes. I think it is always important to be aware of the position of whatever it is you’re reading, and to know I don’t speak for anyone but me. Enjoy reading!
Sex & Sexual Health
How I learnt to orgasm every time during sex with a man
Squirting: the pressure to perform and my lack of sexual pleasure
5 Sex Toys You Should Never Put up Your Butt
6 Tips to Enjoy Sex while you’re on your Period!
Exactly What Happened at My First Cervical Screening
How Mushroom Pills fixed my HPV and Cervix Abnormalities
At Home STD testing: Chlamydia
PCOS & Conception
Trying to Conceive with PCOS Take 2: Keeping Calm
Trying to Conceive with PCOS Take 3: Oh Shit, where did my sex drive go?
Trying to Conceive with PCOS Take 4: Treading Water and Emotional Turmoil
Trying to Conceive with PCOS Take 5: I’m finally pregnant!
You don’t need expensive gadgets to get pregnant! Cheap(er) alternatives and my frustration at companies profiting from people who are TTC.
I’m the problem: coming to terms with social anxiety & imposter syndrome
The Darkest Days: Love, Depression and Suicide Content warning: suicide, grief, depression
Fuck the Pain Away: A Post About Grief and Sex Content warning: Grief, explicit sex
Labelled Lazy: Motivation and Depression Content warning: depression, apathy
Seasons, Cycles, and Sadness: my predictable depression Content warning: suicide, depression, PMDD
Sexual Assault / Abuse
Scars and Stoicism: My Response to Sexual Assault Content warning: sexual assault, trauma
That time I had sex out of politeness Content warning: non consensual sex acts
Subtle Abuse Content warning: Abuse, domestic violence, sexual abuse.
How My Rape Affected My Sex Life Content warning: rape / sexual assault
Queer / Non-Monogamy
Polyamory and Marriage: what it means to me.
Some thoughts on Polyamory: the problem with white media & the changing culture of the Western world
Coming out… again… and again… and again
Why I stopped shaving: hairy legs in a shaven world
Comfortably (un)sexy selfies: a journey towards loving every part of myself
Gift / Buying Guides
Gift Guide: My top sex toys for Valentine’s 2021
The Best Sexy Advent Calendars of 2020
Gift Guide: My top Sex Toy picks for Valentine’s Day 2019
Lovehoney Lingerie: My top picks for Valentine’s day!
Gift Guide: My top Sex Toy picks for Valentine’s Day 2018
My review of SNAPSHOT: ethical queer porn thriller
Eggs and Rabbits: Toys for a Sexy Easter!
Jezebella’s 2018 end of year round up!
Five Ways Sex Toy Companies Could Be Better in 2018
I’m not Sexy enough to be a Sex Blogger
Thoughts on first year of blogging