Here is a space where I write personal and opinion pieces on things that interest me. This could be on sex, sexuality, feminism, relationships, mental health or just general advice I wish someone had given me. The pieces won’t necessarily be on the sex toy or adult fiction world.
I hope you find what I say interesting or at least informative. I speak only from my own experiences, and of how I see the world through my queer white cis-female able bodied eyes. I think it is always important to be aware of the position of whatever it is you’re reading, and to know I don’t speak for anyone but me. Enjoy reading!
Sex & Sexual Health
How I learnt to orgasm every time during sex with a man
Squirting: the pressure to perform and my lack of sexual pleasure
5 Sex Toys You Should Never Put up Your Butt
6 Tips to Enjoy Sex while you’re on your Period!
Exactly What Happened at My First Cervical Screening
How Mushroom Pills fixed my HPV and Cervix Abnormalities
Six ways to Prevent Thrush
At Home STD testing: Chlamydia
PCOS & Conception
My (complicated) baby fever
Trying to Conceive with PCOS
Trying to Conceive with PCOS Take 2: Keeping Calm
Trying to Conceive with PCOS Take 3: Oh Shit, where did my sex drive go?
Trying to Conceive with PCOS Take 4: Treading Water and Emotional Turmoil
Trying to Conceive with PCOS Take 5: I’m finally pregnant!
You don’t need expensive gadgets to get pregnant! Cheap(er) alternatives and my frustration at companies profiting from people who are TTC.
I’m the problem: coming to terms with social anxiety & imposter syndrome
The Darkest Days: Love, Depression and Suicide Content warning: suicide, grief, depression
Fuck the Pain Away: A Post About Grief and Sex Content warning: Grief, explicit sex
Labelled Lazy: Motivation and Depression Content warning: depression, apathy
Seasons, Cycles, and Sadness: my predictable depression Content warning: suicide, depression, PMDD
Sexual Assault / Abuse
Scars and Stoicism: My Response to Sexual Assault Content warning: sexual assault, trauma
That time I had sex out of politeness Content warning: non consensual sex acts
Subtle Abuse Content warning: Abuse, domestic violence, sexual abuse.
How My Rape Affected My Sex Life Content warning: rape / sexual assault
Queer / Non-Monogamy
Polyamory and Marriage: what it means to me.
Some thoughts on Polyamory: the problem with white media & the changing culture of the Western world
Coming out… again… and again… and again
My Top 10 Queer Tunes
Why I stopped shaving: hairy legs in a shaven world
Comfortably (un)sexy selfies: a journey towards loving every part of myself
How To Get a Beach Body!
Gift / Buying Guides
Gift Guide: My top sex toys for Valentine’s 2021
The Best Sexy Advent Calendars of 2020
Gift Guide: My top Sex Toy picks for Valentine’s Day 2019
Lovehoney Lingerie: My top picks for Valentine’s day!
Gift Guide: My top Sex Toy picks for Valentine’s Day 2018
My review of SNAPSHOT: ethical queer porn thriller
Eggs and Rabbits: Toys for a Sexy Easter!
Jezebella’s 2018 end of year round up!
Five Ways Sex Toy Companies Could Be Better in 2018
I’m not Sexy enough to be a Sex Blogger
Thoughts on first year of blogging
My top Sex Toys 2016 & End of Year Reflection